It’s Lonely At The Bottom
I get to hang out with a lot of people at the “top” of their organization and a theme I often hear is that there some loneliness that comes with their success. Well, I also hang out with quite a few individuals who are in the “middle” or “bottom” of their organization… and a theme I often hear from them is that there is some loneliness that comes… with life.
I don’t think anyone should ever feel like they have to qualify their loneliness or that they should feel ashamed to admit that they are lonely. Loneliness is not a bad thing; how you respond to loneliness is where you can get in trouble.
Here’s a few things to do to best respond to the feeling of loneliness:
1.) Read yo Bible. And keep doing so.
If your mind is a battlefield, you are usually losing when you feel lonely. You think of the dumbest things during this time, and the Bible simply can’t be an under-rated item on your to-do list. Reading your Bible doesn’t fix things, it fixes your thinking.
2.) Look for lonely people, and befriend them.
Proverbs 11:25 says, “He who refreshes others will himself be refreshed.” If you took inventory of the relationships in your life, and looked for a lonely person, you wouldn’t have to search far to find someone. In being the person you want someone to be to you, you will find yourself more secure in your current season of life.
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I am reminded of a line from a movie: “It’s the loneliest feeling in the world; to find yourself standing up when everyone else is sitting down.” Great thoughts, Ryan!
I like the way you describe reading the Bible. You’re right. It doesn’t fix things. It fixes our thinking. I’ve always thought of it similar to getting a tire alignment and balance. It keeps my thinking from veering too far to the left or right. It puts all of my expectations and reactions to unexpected events, troubles and joys in a perspective that pleases God.
Thank you for this. I needed this post.